UPDATES About Hollywood’s Coming-Out PR Guru
UPDATE: Coming-out PR guru Howard Bragman (who took actress Meredith Baxter out today) just commented about the interview to me: “As I read it, the important part of what Rupert said wasn’t about actors and opportunities. It was at the end where he said that, despite the professional opportunities he was denied, he was a happier person. And I can tell you that of all the many, many actors I have taken out of the closet, not one has ever regretted the decision to live their life honestly. Whether it hurts an actor, I always tell people that may be what happens, and they have to measure their personal happiness against their potential career. There may well have been other reasons Rupert didn’t become the leading man he imagined himself going to be. But this isn’t about your bank account. This is about your soul.”
In an interview with The Guardian newspaper, Rupert Everett said: “The fact is that you could not be, and still cannot be, a 25-year-old homosexual trying to make it in the British film business or the American film business or even the Italian film business. It just doesn’t work and you’re going to hit a brick wall at some point. You’re going to manage to make it roll for a certain amount of time, but at the first sign of failure they’ll cut you right off. And I’m sick of saying, ‘Yes, it’s probably my own fault.’ Because I’ve always tried to make it work and when it stops working somewhere, I try to make it work somewhere else. But the fact of the matter is, and I don’t care who disagrees, it doesn’t work if you’re gay.”
And that is why he surprisingly advises other Hollywood actors not to be openly gay like he is. ”It’s not that advisable to be honest. It’s not very easy. And, honestly, I would not advise any actor necessarily, if he was really thinking of his career, to come out.” As for those stars still in the closet, he does admit, “I think, all in all, I’m probably much happier than they are. I may not be as rich or successful, but at least I’m vaguely free to be myself.”
As for as getting roles, Everett said: “It’s worse now. A gay man can only do drag.”.. I’ve been reduced to drag.” He blames politics. “Being in Hollywood is like being in the Christian right these days. It’s very, very right wing, no matter how much they claim they’re all Democrats and they’re fighting for Barack Obama… These huge groups like Viacom produce these extraordinary stories where the good win and the bad lose and the villain smokes a cigarette and young couples don’t have sex and everyone says ‘Gosh!’ at worst. It’s this whole language of political correctness, which I think is the closest thing to evil.”
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Hollywood produces films where young couples don’t have sex?
What planet is he on?
The one where Twilight is a valid, money-making franchise.
Gay man here in the biz here–he’s right. He’s a whack job, but he’s right. Hollywood tries to put on what it sees as the values of Middle America; that is, closeted. There is ZERO possibility of being an out leading man. With the relentless prying pap eyes and gossip sites…what a paranoid hell world it must be to be a closeted famous actor…
Once someone chooses to identify himself as gay, how can one expect him to be a viable leading man? You’ve chosen to pursue a lifestyle that is contradictory to what one has to be as a leading man – that role can’t exist anymore than a black actor can play JFK or a white actor play Malcom X. Leading men in mainstream movies like ladies, gay men don’t. People need to understand that the choices to pursue certain lifestyles or activities have consequences.
“you’ve chosen to pursue a lifestyle…”
well said, Bob. Proof positive that you’re the exact kind of backwoods idiot Mr Everett is talking about.
sexual orientation is not, contrary to your fervent desire for it to be, a “lifestyle”. it is one’s life.
and while Mr. Everett’s assertion that out gay actors don’t get leading roles, i submit “White Collar”.
Leaving aside the word “lifestyle” here–I can’t believe you actually just basically said that a gay man can’t play a straight man because straight men are attracted to women. Do you not get what “acting” is? How is it that a gay man can be a leading man as long as no one knows he’s gay? The problem is with you, not the actor.
And btw, while people don’t often cast people of one race to play an actual person of a different race (if they’re famous) yes, black actors can indeed play the same roles white actors can in general. I’ve seen plenty of Shakespeare’s historical kings played by black actors who did a beautiful job.
But it’s ok for straight actors to play gay men, isn’t it? Lke Heath Ledger and the other one in that dreadful movie – and bask in the glory of the ‘challenge’ they’ve pulled off, and everyone thinks it’s such a brave choice…. Oh just fuck off.
I believe it. You never see mixed race straight couples in movies. I have seen only three: The Bodyguard, The Bone Collector (Denzel Washington and Jennifer Lopez at the end, Guess Who, and Jungle Fever. Can anybody here name ONE other than those four? It’s extremely rare. Everyone talks about Hollywood being liberal, but that’s actors in their personal lives, but films are actually pretty traditional. If you were to show a film with a mixed race couple even though it’s man/woman, parts of the country like the midwest and the south, and the east coast (except for Boston and NYC) there’d be rioters burning down the theater.
lol you can tell just by looking out your window when you fly over that those hicks and rednecks are no good…WHAT?! PREJUDICED?!? I DON’T HAVE A RACIST BONE IN MY BODY!!! I JUST HATE THOSE FREAKS IN JESUSLAND
the truth is mixed race doesn’t happen much because a) it’s not very common in real life, b) it’s nearly always a distraction to the story (LOOK HERE EVERYBODY MIXED RACE COUPLE NOTHING TO SEE WHY ARE YOU EVEN NOTICING AREN’T YOU COLORBLIND JUST LIKE ME), and c) no one but earnest liberals NEEDS to see it…so given all that, you would expect it not to be very common except where it is a plot point
That movie “Away We Go” had a mixed race couple in the leads and I don’t think that was the focus of the movie. The family in “Rachel getting married” was also mixed race (both generations). I’ve seen interracial dating on TV shows too. Maybe you’re not remembering them because they didn’t make a big deal of it? I don’t think it’s that uncommon in real life.
“Something New” with Simon Baker( The Mentalist) and Sanaa Lathan (Aliens vs. Predator). It is actually a rather charming movie.
Sad…But true..This is a biz that plays to middle America which
means it’s all about what has always been in H’wood….in spite of all the “art for art’s sake” talk…bigbux for bigbux sake.
Gay = tab gossip = bad for biz. Until that changes, I don’t see an out “big” star…At least a male one..(The market seems more tolerant of out women.) I hope the market proves me wrong….
NPH seemed to have done just fine – he might not be a MOVIE STAR, but he’s hardly “hit a brick wall” – the guy seems to get more and more acclaim with every passing month.
Yes, but we dont know how much BIGGER he would’ve been had he been straight. I think after MOTHER is over, all he has is b’way and that’s it.
We won’t really know until a beloved international mega movie star does it, Rupert.
I agree – but theories of a huge movie mega-star coming “out” to be the face of gay friendly Hollywood are…hmmm…shall I say up in the air?
Ha! Never going to happen.
From personal experience, I can say that Bragman is a complete douchebag. A total famewhore. He really could care less about this, but he’s definitely found his niche.
Not only his niche, but a way to bank. “This is about your soul.” Bullshit. For him, it’s about the bottom line. Let the actor deal with the consequences. It’s a good business plan though.
Is being a closeted actor even possible anymore? I guess I see how a Tom Cruise, to pull a pair of feet out of the air, could manage it, but for anyone just coming up? Between blogs and iphones and all the never-less-invasive stuff coming up (like Facebook being able to out you — thanks MIT!) by the time anyone realizes they should maybe start being discreet it will be too late forever.
I agree with you totally. It’s not really possible, though I am sure there are those who are pulling it off. I also agree that it will not happen until the world audience changes its feelings towards homosexuals. There are many reasons why it is not a good idea,whether or not is should be. As long as we care who plays roles, homosexuals will never get lead roles if they are outed. The main reason, and the excuse in the actor’s circle? Believability. The actor’s greatest tool is an attempt at anonymity. That is why actors don’t like interviews and don’t like to devulge personal details. Yes it’s because of privacy as well. But think about it. If we knew every actor through and through would we bother to go see their work? At least the general public wouldn’t. The system would fail miserably. People would say, “Well, he or she isn’t really like that.” It would cause characters to not be believable, and it would destroy the film world. So besides the EXTREME prejudice against them, there actually is a good reason why some stay closeted. It’s career suicide to be known too well. Don’t believe me? Look at Lindsay Lohan. Why go see her work when her real life is more entertaining, and you don’t have to buy a ticket to see it!
rupert everett’s lack of a career does not come from the fact that he is gay. it comes from the fact that he is a pompous, entitled, self-loathing mess who expected the world to bow at his feet after “my best friend’s wedding”. couple that with substance problems, bad face lifts, horrid movie choices, and a generally cunty disposition, and he’s surprised no one wants to work with him?
oh, and for the record, i am an out gay man working in hollywood (not an actor) who has never been closeted.
Ditto. I had a project submitted to him for a part he supposedly wanted to play – a hetero leading man role. His mean-spirited, condescending and arrogant response was enough to put me off him forever – and I used to be a fan. Not only did he trash my project – hey, I’m a grown-up and used to it – but he trashed the project he was currently working on, the previous project he worked on, etc. It’s not that you’re a queen, Rupert, it’s that you are a classless one who burns bridges.
These comments are right on. I thought everybody knew Rupert Everett had more obstacles in his career than being gay. Also it’s not about whether an actor is gay or not but whether he can play non-gay and Everett can’t from what I’ve seen. Nobody cares what an actor’s preference is. If he’s auditioning to play straight he needs to seem straight. If you can’t pull that off then you’ll always be in a character-actor niche. Not brain surgery to figure out. Lastly, Everett’s looks and personality aren’t leading man either.
I’m 26 years old, straight, and work in the business on the creative end (TV). All my best friends are 26, straight, and do not work in the business in any capacity (they’re smarter than me, obviously). Neil Patrick Harris, AKA NPH, is a God to us on How I Met Your Mother (he plays a crazed ladies man, and is more convincing as a ‘player’ than any straight actor I’ve ever seen), in the sophomoric-yet-fun White Castle flicks, and even as himself — that’s right, as the host of the Emmys and whenever he does interviews. He is hilarious, talented, and entertaining as hell. Billy Crystal owned the 90s as the host-with-the-most but I see NPH takin’ over the reigns. And he defies all these absurd ‘homosexual’ odds that say both straights and gays can’t embrace a, well, gay MAN. A woman, they think we can handle. But not a guy! Wrong. NPH crosses all boundaries, folks. And the most ironic thing about it is that no one ever cares that he’s a gay man. No one thinks about it. Because he has such a great energy, is such a great actor, and is always clearly having fun. What he doesn’t do… is complain, whine, and make up excuses. Unlike Mr. Everett, who without a doubt should spend more time diversifying his roles and less time reworking his face. Or perhaps he just isn’t that talented. After all, ‘MY BEST FRIEND’S WEDDING’ was 12 years ago, buddy. We all have our 15 minutes. Dermot Mulroney clearly accepted it. Now it’s your turn.
Right on, Robbie. I’m a gay guy in the industry. I’m 27. Some of my best friends are the most awesome, down to earth, STRAIGHT guys who love gay-themed things as much as I do; progress has been slow…but those “lines” have started to become blurred by our generation. Maybe the next will give us a Brcue Willis/John McClaine type who happens to be gay but will play across the board to all audiences. It’s up to us, those who are being handed the reins in the Biz, to make sure that those things do come to pass.
You are RIGHT ON about NPH. I also have to share that he is an incredible person. I worked on a pilot with him in Paris a few years ago. He was the only person within a mile of the building that anyone would have heard of. It was supposed to be “taped live” and about 20 minutes in, everything was going wrong, especially the work of the bit players. There were four of us, and we’d been in Paris less than 24 hours and were exhausted, and to say we lacked energy and had brain fog was an understatement. So the director called cut and we had to start over. Just as the casting director/co-producer was coming over to scream at me, NPH stepped in front of him and addressed the four of us, saying, “I’m sorry about that guys. It was me. I’m really nervous and they need me to be less frenetic. I’ll try to get it right from now on.” I almost started to cry. It was a total lie and everyone on set knew it. No one deserves more success than he does, and no one I know gives a rat’s ass whether he’s gay or straight.
He is very right. The few gay moviestars I’ve encountered remain in the closet. R.E. Was comsidered to be a leading man and now look at his career. NPH is a character actor and will always be just that. The issues arise when a leading man is set to open a movie (I.e. Kevin Spacey) and the studios just won’t bite if they are out. It’s a shame but all to a reality…
Kevin Spacey is a leading man and not a character actor? Really?
Neil Patrick Harris gay? He’s chasing every skirt on How I Met your Mother! Oh, wait, that’s called acting, isn’t it?
How does anyone not get that NPH’s role is an inside joke, the character is a gay man in straight man drag, that’s why it’s funny. Ask Carter Bay, or Neil, if you don’t think so.
He sadly is telling the truth, NPH is a rare exception, he is just that good at what he does but don’t expect him to get that leading man role where he gets the girl in film. TV yes but not film. If he had come out before HIMYM, no way would he had gotten the role. There are quite a few TV stars who are closeted and they are for the most part miserable, I know I have worked with several over the last 10 years. I hate the act of outing people who don’t want to be out, I think it’s everyone’s choice to make.
Yes, because after he came out, Ian McKellan never got any big leading roles. I wonder who played that guy Magneto in the X-Men movies and that guy Gandalf in those Lord of the Rings flicks.
Ian Mckellan wasn’t the lead in the X-Men or Lord Of The Rings movies.Having a role in a movie and being the lead is two separate things.Both the X-Men series and The Lord Of the Rings series had a assemble cast, which Mckellan play a large role, but he was far from the lead in either series.
And once again Hollywood passes the blame to middle America. Hey, it’s not our fault if you don’t have the courage of your convictions. Nor is it our fault if Hollywood’s bigoted view of middle America includes the notion that we wouldn’t accept a gay man in a leading role. How many opportunities have you given us, exactly? I can’t think of any outside of TV shows.
Boring. Get over it Rupe. Hollywood only cares that you’re old, not gay.
How is NPH a character actor? he’s the star of a hit show. If RE is smart he’ll go the character route rather than try to be a leading man. There are a lot of reasons why careers don’t take off, and lots of more talented actors than him have watched it all slip away for no good reason.
As for his contention that Hollywood only produces right-wing puritan movies, what is he on? Other than Kirk Cameron, the sky’s the limit for depravity, coarseness and the depths of the human heart. As long as it’s entertaining and they keep it under 3 hours, I’m there whether the stars are straight or gay. Don’t care.
Also, if Hollywood is so right-wing, why the constant stream of Bush-bashing anti-Iraq war movies, with their almost 100% failure rate at the box office?
Well, Hollywood only came out with Anti-Bush movies when the execs thought they’d be “safe”. Hollywood has no agenda other than “hand me over the cash”, and if a fascist movie would make 1 billion dollars, they would make that. If they thought a communist movie would make that amount of money, they’d make that.
In that regard, Hollywood is just a big ole whore.
If that were true we’d have seen a zillion anti-Islam movies since 9/11. In fact nowadays when terrorism is the subject, it is mandatory that a white man be behind it all. Don’t kid yourself, Hollywood has political lines it will not cross no matter how much money is at stake. Just ask Mel Gibson, who had to self-finance his Christ movie.
His Christ movie… that was in ARAMAIC.
A DEAD LANGUAGE.
Prior to Passion, how many other movies have been shot in a dead language and made a profit?
yeah you’re right, also there’s all those other movies celebrating Christianity that Hollywood can’t wait to make more of
well I mean after they get done with another 20 German language movies about the blessed Holocaust
Yeah, Hollywood supports Obama and produces films that are against the Iraq war. They also claim to be liberal.
At the end of the day, the powers that be are quite conservative.
It’s unfortunate that gay execs don’t support and hire gay actors and female execs don’t support and hire female directors.
with Twilight being the most recent piece of evidence, heterosexual women (more masculinized by the day) seem to be transfixed by gay-seeming, soft, twinky young men conflicted by sexual aggression. Japanese manga now has a massive audience of young women addicted to reading stories of teen gay male romance.
As gender continues melting, guided by quite gay, but family friendly corporate parents like DisneyCo, eventually young gay male romance movies will take off with a niche audience of odd, rapt, hormonal young American women. Stereotypes and florid acting will mark the style of these films, and gay young men will find fame imitating and parroting the needs of their captive, chubby audience.
Look to the East…
It’s generational to a large degree. The younger crowd isn’t as concerned about your sexual orientation for the most part. Many have even gone to the well, then decided hetero was more their cup of tea. Many straight guys have close gay friends. However, there is an underlying homophobia in this business (and most others). The ones who have come out are remarkable, including Rupert. As far as leading role status goes and public perception, the only way we’re going to know if it works is if more people do come out. There’s really no other way.
Back in the 90s, they said that no African-American actor could lead an action or sci-fi movie. They said that foreign box offices would never pick up the rights for such movies. Remember the story behind Matrix?
Cut today. There’s Will Smith just to name one.
I am not saying progressive is inevitable. I am saying we have clue what star will pop up on the screen that people will really love. I am saying Rupert is a BITTER queen with a bad face job. I can not blame him. He thought the breakout star was going to be him. The trailer blazer who set Hollywood straight (pardon the pun). He was wrong.
But, his story is not the next gay guys story. If NPH can make the leap from TV to film, I think he has the potential to shut old Rupert up.
Not only gay actors, but gay entertainers. ABC promoted the heck out of Adam Lambert’s AMA performance as provocative, and then when it was they took him off Good Morning America – though he’d performed on it before and been quite vanilla, so they knew he knew the difference, though they publicly stated otherwise.
And now ABC has just cancelled his appearances on Jimmy Kimmel and New Year’s Rockin’ Eve, even though after the AMAs Adam has spent his promo tour eating crow and backing ABC’s censorship as something he understands, etc.
Wonder who’s pulling these strings at ABC, and what’s going on behind the scenes.
While I agree its ridiculous, Adam has said he changed things from rehearsal and then got carried away.
When someone goes off script in a major way, I can see why they might be leery about live stuff, but Jimmy Kimmel doesn’t make sense.
Whoopee Goldberg has extra anti-swearing warnings and provisions if I am reading what she has said on The View correctly. Because they really fear she might say some stuff in teh heat of teh moment that the others wouldn’t.
His performance with the crotch moment was unexceptional. It turns out Pink did the same moves in 2004 with no uproar. The difference is that it was a gay performer doing the same move. There’s footage of her doing the exact same thing.
He’s right, but there’s no one to blame here. It comes from the ulitmate boss, the audience. Leading men by nature have to play leading romatic roles, and leading men aren’t character actors, they are stars, and therefore seldom, maybe never, completely disappear into a role.
Audiences, by pure human nature, just don’t quite go with a man playing a straight romantic lead when he’s openly gay. It applies to women as well. Anne Heche is a good example, Ellen drug her out very publicly and ruined a very promising career. I think her next role was with Pierce Brosnan, and the audience just couldn’t quite accept the role once they knew she was gay. They don’t mean to be bigoted, it just makes the suspension of disbelief another step away, it breaks the barrier of movie magic.
It’s even worse with Male actors because some men just flat won’t even try to go with a know gay actor playing straight with a hot female lead. I’m not defending it. I’m just saying that’s the way it is.
The studios know this, they know audience acceptance will be lower. Studios don’t like negatives, and this on has burned them more than once. All things being equal, or even sort of equal, they’re going to nip the negative on the front end and go with “presumed straight” actor, or at leaste on who hasn’t had pictures of them holding hands with men in the tabloids.
Being looked over for those star roles with the romantic dynamic (most of them) ultimately slows the momentum of the gay actors career, and one day – no more leading man or woman.
I can imagine it’s a tough choice for actors. But no one ever said the world was fair. I don’t know of many one legged or ugly leading men either. This will change when the audience changes, and that’s going to be a very long time. It all comes down to what’s more important to the actor. It should be thier choice, and they should then live with it, and by all means have every right to try to change it. But first understand it. It’s the audience, the customer, and the studio has every right to cater to them.
“Leading men by nature have to play leading romatic roles, and leading men aren’t character actors, they are stars, and therefore seldom, maybe never, completely disappear into a role”.
Wrong ! Ever heard of Johnny Depp ? DiCaprio ? Downey JR ? All leading men who are also great character actors who can immerse themselves in their roles.
Wait… being gay is a disability like being one-legged or is akin to being ugly? I am not sure that analogy holds up
it’s just a matter of time. Once one big action star comes out, it will lessen the impact for the next big star to come out. It may be somewhat detrimental to the first one who is brave enough to do it (in the same way that it was really hard on Ellen’s career for the first few years after she did it), but much like gay marriage in Massachusetts – once it’s been in effect for a couple of years and the sky doesn’t fall- people will get more comfortable with the idea. I bet we see a male star come out in the next 3- 5 years.
“I bet we see a male star come out in the next 3- 5 years”
And that male star career will end faster than a porno without sex.
To be honest, can’t everything Rupert is griping about also be applied to straight, older actors as well?
And can someone please help him set his DVR for more than the Hallmark Channel?
Regarding your “old straight actors” comment. There’s a difference… they have had a career. Many gay actors don’t get those opportunities.
What you are really saying is: “You know gay actors are just like old straight actors… their careers are over.”
Ian McKellan advised a group of actors that they live their live honestly. He made the point, of all the actors there are in Hollywood or wherever, only a fraction of a fraction will ever be a big enough “star” to have their personal lives even seriously cared about – so why should a gay actor’s whole life be lived as a lie on the chance that if they ever win that lottery and make it that big being gay would be a problem.
I’m not saying that coming out would or wouldn’t be an obstacle, we have yet to see that at a movie star level or seriously about to break movie star level.
Rupert Everret had many other issues that someone else already listed including the sad state of his face. Maybe the reason he gets parts playing old women is because he got knifed and peeled so much he kind of looks like an old woman. Also drugs, and a bit of a snooty attitude, and wasn’t there something about being a rent boy? He was working a niche when he made it big, the aristocratic English looks and delivery. Not sure how much call for that there was ever going to be.
We need to see a hot young American leading man try to be out to really judge.
If Rupert wants to get good parts, maybe he should try and get someone to right him an indie script and get some backing for it – and it can be a part where his sexuality isn’t a part of the equation – no love interest either way – so the issue doesn’t come up. Just like sexual orientation doesn’t figure into most people’s work life. He could work an English investigator part or something.
It’s moviedom. Who is to say that no one will accept an openly gay leading man? It’s not been done before. And in some regards Middle America is probably more accepting than Hollywood.
For Hollywood, it probably isn’t a matter of conservativsm as it is fear of not making a profit.
As for NPH — he is talented and seems great to work with. His focus is on the work, not any particular agenda. Same for Ellen. She is about the work, the an agenda. And there is no need to speculate as to whether or not he would have gotten “Mother” had it been commonly known that he was gay. From my understanding, it has been known in industry circles for years that he was gay. So this comes down to the right role for the right actor.
Now if he headlines a film that makes a $100 million, Hollywood will put ten films with a gay leading man in production. Hollywood is all about the money.
As for NPH after “Mother”, who cares if he winds up back on Broadway? Since when was theatre work a bad thing?
If they never take the chance, how will they know if they will make money or not? That’s the problem, no risk taking at the widget factory. There are a million stories out there, but they shut out everyone. Now we’re left with movies based on comic books.
Lets be honest here shall we…I mean, Rupert is both gay and an obnoxious one. No wonder he couldn’t get any acting jobs.
Sad for him to think all gay actors will end up like him.